Umm, bad. I felt very bad about it. Anyone who doesn’t feel bad about 100 people being killed or assaulted isn’t really human, much less a follower of Christ. And on the flip side, anyone who was expecting a different answer and is under the impression that Christians are secretly happy to see gay people die is delusional.
I hate offending people. I mean I really hate it. That's why I didn't want to even approach this topic. Whether you are in a church building or on a college campus, it's like a pile of brush and one little match will just cause a massive fire. And I hate fires. But sometimes, I realize it's needed.
There is so much to say about this subject and while I feel like tip-toeing around everything on both sides of the aisle, I feel like I just need to come out and say what I mean and pray that it is received how it is intended. And because there is so much I want to say, I sometimes lose the ability to write in a way that is organized. So if I go all bullet point style on you, forgive me.
To the Christian - Let’s be clear about what the Bible says. It is not sinful for a person to be sexually attracted to a person of the same sex. Where sin comes in is when a person gives into that temptation and practices homosexuality (which is defined as having sexual activity with a person of the same sex). If we want to stop being viewed as hateful towards homosexuals, then we (as individuals and as churches) need to provide a safe and loving place for someone who may be struggling with it to be able to be honest without feeling like people are looking at them like they are gross or evil. We all face different things and feel differently. I may struggle with addiction or pride. Yours may be lying or being unloving. The struggle isn’t the sin - it’s acting on the struggle in ways that are contrary to the Bible that lead us into sin.
To the person who is gay - Let’s be clear about what the Bible says. It states very clearly and in many places that God is not o.k. with the act of homosexuality. Does he love you? Of course. Does he want you to be happy? More than anything. But at the expense of doing what He says is right and holy? That is never the case with anything as far as God is concerned. His utmost concern is not really what we think will make us happy…it’s about what will make us the most holy. Even if it means denying sexual desires. That’s true for heterosexuals and homosexuals alike. You either have to accept that the Bible is true and right then follow it. Or you have to disavow whatever it says and turn away from the truth found in it. What you can’t do is claim to be a believer in Christ and not at least make your best effort to do what He wants you to.
To the Christian - The temptation affects a lot more people than you think. The back-handed jokes, snickers, and subtle (or sometimes not-so-subtle) remarks often fall on the ears of people who are struggling with homosexuality. In our own assemblies there are people who fight this battle daily. It doesn’t feel good to be the butt of jokes from people who are either just being mean spirited or who have insecurities of their own they are trying to make up for. Making fun of anyone because of their sexuality, especially when sin is involved, just isn’t funny.
To the person who is gay - Because a Christian cannot morally agree that homosexuality is acceptable in God’s eyes, that does not mean they are ignorant, a bigot, or hate you. Please stop lumping all Christians in with the lunatics from places like the Westboro Baptist church. Most Christians that I know are loving and genuinely caring people who would actually like to be able to just say, “If it makes you happy, go for it.” But when we feel like we are called to live by a standard that God has given us - even when it may not make sense or feel good to us - our first obligation is to God and his word. Period.
To both the Christian and the person who is gay - Both sides of this issue have sometimes failed to approach the topic with the love that both sides claim to be all about. Christians, we say that God is love and that love is the greatest commandment, but do we show it? We can disagree and still be loving. And to the people who are pushing for tolerance of all beliefs, do you really want all beliefs to be accepted or just your own? Tolerance is defined as “the willingness to accept feelings, habits, or beliefs that are different from your own.” Is that what you are looking to achieve or is your goal to demonize anyone who thinks you are wrong? As long as we both keep pointing fingers and trying to angrily force our beliefs on everyone around us, we’re just going to keep polarizing each other.
To my friends or family who are gay and may be reading, I seriously prayed before posting this. I prayed that even if you disagree with parts of what I‘ve written, that the true heart behind it is seen. I recognize the hard road that you are on. As a Christian I hope that I don’t add to that burden, but show God through my words and actions and maybe help you to see what HE wants you to see through me. Do I think that homosexuality is something that I can say is o.k. in God’s eyes? No. I can’t say that. I believe that the New Testament of the Bible is the standard by which I try my best to live my life by. And even if it is a hard teaching, it says that people who are actively engaged in homosexual relationships (or in ungodly heterosexual relationships for that matter) will not go to Heaven.
I want to go to Heaven some day. I want you to go with me. If that means that I have to suggest to you that maybe you need to make some changes to get there, I am willing right now to do that. But know that I recognize that I am constantly in need of changing who I am as well. Maybe in different ways, but in difficult ways none the less.
We are not enemies. We are all on this journey together and Satan loves nothing more than to drive wedges in between us. Trying my best to not let him win.
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
1 John 4:11