I kind of feel bad for him honestly. I can really be a hot mess.
On one hand, I desperately want and need his support through this process. On the other hand I don’t want him to give me advice. I want him to appreciate the changes that he sees in my body, but I don’t want him to be TOO excited. That would imply that he doesn‘t like the way I am right now. I want him to join in on this process and make it a journey that our family is going on together, but I get jealous that he has the ability to get up every morning to go to the gym. We are both working on helping our 7 year old to establish healthier choices. I totally project my own food issues onto him. If my husband tells my son he can’t have something specific to eat or makes even the slightest hint at a comment that I find to be not gentle enough, my hackles raise and I get defensive on his behalf (although I DO keep my thoughts to myself so we present a united front).
Like I said, I’m a mess.
I know that one of the keys to success is having a good support system in place around you. And I also know that my husband is the single most influential person in my life, and without his help and support this is never going to work. Right now I am just trying to figure out how to balance what I want from him and want I need from him. I’m all for advice and suggestions as to how you have found that balance with your spouse.
I may not know exactly HOW he can support me right now, but I do know that I want to be better FOR him. He deserves a wife who is healthy. He deserves a wife who is comfortable in her own skin. He deserves a wife who can be active with him and do the things that with him that he enjoys.
But maybe he should count himself lucky. If the Bible says that a man and a woman are supposed to leave their father and mother and the two should become one flesh, my husband has gotten a lot more flesh in this deal!