Quit. Being. A. Wimp.
I understand that we all have problems. I also understand that there are times when venting to someone regarding said problems is completely healthy, beneficial, and normal. As a matter of fact, I think that one of the reasons God established the church was to provide us with a means to help bear one another’s burdens. I’m not talking to the normal, every day trials we all face. I’m talking to people who are on the extreme end of the complaining scale.
I’m talking to the person whose entire life (and sometimes the lives of those around them) is put on hold because of the common cold. I’m talking to the person who is crippled because they don’t make enough money. I’m talking to the person who is offended so easily that people have to walk on eggshells when speaking to them. I’m talking to the person who uses the actions of others to excuse their own bad behavior.
In order to thrive in today’s world (although this has always been the case), you have to have a thick skin. We should try to be people with grit and determination. We should be assured enough in ourselves and in our God to not whither and crumble at every misfortune that comes our way. Can we be sad sometimes? Absolutely. Can we feel offended by someone? Again, that is natural. Can we take a day off and lie in bed because we don’t feel well? If your kids will let you, go for it.
But if you are the person who can only talk about your own physical pains and problems, and you allow relatively minor things to keep you in bed or on the couch every day, it may be surprising to you to see how much better you’d feel if you would just focus on serving someone else. Do you make it a habit of “taking your toys and going home” when you don’t get your way? Try working on your own communication skills and then try putting the needs of others in front of your own. Or maybe you are good at serving others and getting things accomplished but the whole time you are working, you complain and begrudge the fact that nobody else is helping you? Again, who are we to complain? We don’t deserve anything. Count yourself lucky that you have been blessed to be chosen as a vessel to carry out God’s work.
Besides, if you are living the life you should - then all of the junk and garbage that we have to deal with in this life will be long forgotten when we get to Heaven anyway. So while we are here, why not do our best to keep our physical problems in perspective, to bring joy and peace to the people around us instead of negativity and turmoil, and try and focus on our blessings instead of the areas we wish were better? People will gravitate to you more, enjoy your company more, and honestly - your behavior will be more pleasing to not just people, but to God as well.
“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing…God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.” James 1:2-4, 12
“…for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little.” Philippians 4:11-12