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This Is Me Trying To Answer Your Questions

2/25/2016

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​I’ve gotten a lot of questions recently about various aspects of the gastric bypass process.  Some of them have been procedure specific, some have been more about the emotional and/or spiritual aspects surrounding it.  Instead of answering everyone individually, I figured that if you’re asking, maybe there are others out there with the same questions.  So here are the answers to some of your inquiries.  I hope they sufficient.  I’m tired tonight.

Q - Is your husband supportive of your decision? (Surprisingly the most common question)
A - If my husband wasn’t supportive of it, I wouldn’t consider it.  It’s such a big thing that it’s not just my life that is going to be affected.  Now with that being said, he used to be dead set against it.  I think prayer and understanding have changed his mind.  I still don’t think he loves the idea of seeing me go through the surgery part of it…but he is happy and excited that I can finally have a real shot at success when it comes to losing weight.  And he is aware that especially a few months post op things might not be all sunshine and rainbows.  Also, when talking to others who've had the surgery, I've noticed that when women have it, their husbands almost always started off being opposed and then changed their minds.  The men I've heard talk about it have had wives who've supported them from the beginning.  I'm not going to try and dissect the reasons for that, but I find it interesting.

Q - When did you decide that weight loss surgery was a better choice than losing it naturally?
A - I’ve struggled with my weight since I was 13 with no long term success.  As a matter of fact, I have been on and off of diets since then only to continue gaining weight.  After I had my last son, my blood pressure spiked and never really went back down.  I have been put on several BP medications in order to control it. I’m on cholesterol medicine and continually struggle with pain in my Achilles tendons, knees, and back.  My 3 year old closely resembles the Tasmanian Devil and I just can’t keep up.  I asked myself if I wanted to continue trying to lose weight and risk it not happening OR in essence force myself to.  Like I said, I prayed very hard about it and came to the conclusion that at this point I just need to be healthier.  And I was afraid that I wouldn’t have time to do it naturally.

Q - Are you afraid you’re making the wrong decision?
A - Between the horror stories people love to tell about their uncle whose stomach exploded and all of the classes that are just trying to pound into you how much of a difficult commitment this can be - it’s hard to not stop and question things sometimes.  But years of prayer have gone into my decision and I received very clear answers.  So do I question my ability to handle everything?  Sometimes.  But I don’t feel like the decision is mine to change.  I feel God was very clear and if that assumption is incorrect on my part, I’ve put my faith in Him to make that clear as well.

Q - What about the surgery scares you the most?
A - Losing my hair (happens somewhat frequently) and being one of the few people who seem to have life long complications.

Q - How much weight is normal to lose?
A - With the procedure I’ve chosen, people typically lose 60-80% of their EXCESS weight.  So if your ideal weight is 135, subtract that from your current weight.  You can expect to lose 60-80% of that.  The majority is lost the first year and a half.

Q - Will you ever be able to eat normally again?
A - Here’s the schedule I’ve been told is normal: 2-3 days in the hospital afterwards is liquid only.  For the next two weeks, the goal is to eat 5-6 meals consisting of ¼ cup to ½ cup of pureed food each day.  For the next four weeks, 5-6 meals consisting of ¼ cup to ½ cup soft foods (think nursing home).  After that you start adding in normal foods - just making sure that you chew the heck out of them.  If you eat meals with 10 grams or more of sugar, it can cause dumping syndrome in some people which causes sweating, nausea, and vomiting.  The doctors say that once everything is healed and stuff, the average size meal would be about 1-1 ½ cups (think lean cuisine meal size).  It is possible to restretch the stomach out if you don’t follow the rules - but that’s obviously not the ideal situation.

Q - What is required to be approved for gastric bypass surgery?
A - Well, unless you want to pay for it out of pocket (which would cost you about $25,000 if you were paying cash) that totally depends on your medical insurance company.  There may be more or fewer but generally speaking they want to see that you have at least two weight related co-morbidities.  Basically those are just diseases or conditions caused by your weight.  You’re talking about things like high BP, high Cholesterol, Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, and Arthritis.  Insurance companies require tests to ensure you are healthy enough to withstand a several hour long surgery (pulmonary clearance, cardiac clearance, EGT, EKG, blood work, etc…).  Mine requires 9 months of physician monitored weight loss attempts (must see the doctor for 9 consecutive months) and 3 months with a dietitian.  I don’t know if it’s standard across the country or just at OSU, where I’ll be having the surgery, but they require Life After Bariatric Surgery classes (4 one hour classes).  Once all of those things are completed, everything is submitted for the insurance company who has 2 weeks to respond.  If approved, there is a pre-surgical visit.  At this visit they will schedule your procedure, go over your health care plan, and give you specific info about a required 3 week pre-op diet (very low carb and low calorie in order to shrink the liver as much as possible).

I’ve gotten several questions regarding spiritual aspects of the surgery (Is it a cop out? Does it show a lack of faith that I can do all things through Christ?  Do I feel that putting myself in a high risk situation because I have a lack of self-control is sinful?).  Those are such big questions that I plan on addressing them in a separate blog post.  I can tell you that weight related issues can definitely be spiritual in nature.  I believe that this whole process is paving the way for me to be able to use it as a ministry opportunity not just in the world but also in the church.  It’s so complex emotionally.  But it’s not the same for everyone.  I’ll only be able to answer questions for myself.

I hope this was informative and not too boring.  And I hope it answered your questions.  If it didn’t, I’m more than happy to expound. 
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Bringing Sexy Back

2/16/2016

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This is obviously not me - but this is the exact C-pap machine that, thanks to obstructive sleep Apnea, I get to wear to bed every night.  I know...you don't have to tell me - it's HOT.  Beyonce wishes she had a C-pap like mine.

- The flexible tube.
- The water chamber with five (yes FIVE) moisture levels.
- The ramp-up feature that starts off slow and slowly increases air pressure and
- The fully adjustable full face mask (as opposed to the kind that only goes over your nose). Because really - as if being diagnosed with sleep Apnea wasn't hot enough, I also get to be officially labeled as a night time mouth breather.  Eat your heart out J-Lo.

I don't know where I'd be without it.  Well, yeah I do actually.  I'd probably be sitting in my car in the kid's pickup line at school asleep.  Or sitting asleep at the kitchen table.  Or asleep in the grocery store parking lot.  At least that's where I WAS before I had it. Looking back on it now I wonder how many people that saw me thought I was an addict nodding out.  Again - very attractive.

Getting the Apnea diagnosis and treatment really has been a life changer for me.  But I will not deny that one of the most exciting aspects of losing weight is to someday rid myself of this dreadful/wonderful contraption.

Being able to talk until I fall asleep would be nice.  Now I have to say, "Are we done talking? Because I need to put on my mask now."  That certainly puts a damper on deep conversation.  Not moving the wrong way and having air escape your mask making it sound like you passed gas would be nice - although it still does evoke immature laughing spells somewhat frequently.  Being able to roll over from one side to the other without getting tangled up in a plastic tube would be nice.  Not waking up with very strange lines like this on my face would be nice too.
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So just in case I didn't already have enough motivation, I am going to make this reason 1033 why I am looking forward to dropping a few (hundred) pounds.

Until then I will faithfully continue to end each night thinking of myself as the female version of Darth Vader.
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I Have Been A Negligent Blogger

2/14/2016

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I think something has fried my brain.  I realize that it has been a while since my last post, but I had no idea it had been THIS long.  If I were a mother and you were all my children, I'd be working on getting my parental rights back.  For that I am sorry.  I will try to do better.

So here is where I currently stand in regards to my weight loss surgery:

- Finished all of the required medical tests and evaluations that my insurance company requires.  I had some issues with an EKG but three procedures later and they determined it was nothing.  Just some poorly placed wires during the first test.  Yay for good results...boo for newbie medical assistants.

- I am currently taking weekly classes titled "Life After Bariatric Surgery" (by the way, I love that my autocorrect changes 'bariatric' to 'barbaric' every time).  My first two classes have covered the nutritional supplements that will be required post surgery and good fats/bad fats.  I have two more weeks of those and then that can be checked off of my list o' things to do prior to submitting for insurance approval.

- February is month 8 of 9 required months of doctor's visits.  After March's visit THAT insurance requirement should also be met.

- Insurance requires that I still lose about 30 pounds prior to surgery.  This is to increase the likelihood of a laparoscopic procedure as opposed to the kind where they have to open you up completely.  The word is that when you lose weight, the first place you lose from is from around your organs.  So if I lose the required weight, my liver should be in a better position (literally) to have the safer procedure.  This has been more challenging than I thought.  BUT I will do it.

So here's the kicker.  Notice how all of those bullet points contain some form of "insurance approval" in them?  Well, looks like Alfred and I will most likely be losing our current insurance at the end of March - which will require us to purchase our own from the lovely Health Care Marketplace.  Getting new insurance will probably change up the insurance requirements for this surgery.  Fun, fun, fun.  Luckily our current insurance has one of the more strict lists of requirements - so hopeful
ly whichever one we will be able to switch to will not require TOO much more.

This has been an up and down process.  It is definitely not for the faint of heart or for the disorganized.  I have found myself somewhat surprised that some people are able to get this done on their own.  I consider myself to be a fairly intelligent person and this has been a confusing and difficult process to maneuver my way through.

As frustrating as the process has been, I still feel like my prayers for guidance and wisdom are continuing to be answered.  I know that it is not going to be easy - but I do believe that in the end, it will be easier than some of the things that I have to face now because of my weight.

So it looks like it will be at least a few more months...but in the meantime I promise that I will do my best to be a better blogger.  And maybe some day you and I can once again rekindle the relationship that we once had.
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